If you’re anything like me, you probably spent your pregnancy (and pre-pregnancy) poring over books, blogs, website and actually believed every darn thing that sounded like pregnancy advice.
Pregnancy isn’t always by the book. So,eschewing the adorableness that oozes out of the parenting books, here are 10 secrets no one tells you about –
The joy can be surprisingly short-lived
“No-one told me how small the gap is between seeing the two pink lines and starting to feel like shit.” Say hello to Morning sickness, Heart burns, Hormones going crazy,Hemorrhoids, Leg Cramps, Bleeding gums, ah! the list is endless…
Your baby’s name is not set in stone
You’re allowed to change your mind 10 trillion times on this one – that’s why they call you boss of the house! And it’s perfectly okay to ignore suggestions you hate.It’s also the time your realize about the numerous people you dislike in the world and don’t want to name you baby after!
You’re not going crazy – it’s the hormones
Feel like you cannot control your emotions? It’s not your fault. And it’s not your partner’s fault either. And it’s not the television’s fault. Blame the hormones. Did I mention, it could get worse post delivery. Postpartum Depression absolutely not welcome.
You’re going through memory loss
Ah! Don’t worry, it’s best that you get used to lots of sticky notes, calendars and to do lists. I felt like I had exchanged my brains with a fish during my pregnancy.
Don’t go into a baby shop just to ‘look around’
You’ll end up coming back home with the complete store. Yes- everything looks cute, adorable and want to pick in neutral colors. But – have a list, it helps!
You can simply ignore advice from weirdos who think they know what’s best
I had neighbors, friends, family, actually anyone that wanted to give BIG – Gyaan throw advice at me!Just take all advice in your stride. Use the advice that works for you and filter out the rest.
You can crave smells as well as foods
It’s amazing how you crave the unhealthiest food. If you’re struggling through morning sickness, finding foods you are able to actually stomach can be hard. I remember the times I sat at the dinner table crying and feeling horribly guilty at the same time because I couldn’t stomach anything but chocolate and ice cream.
Don’t worry – ‘healthy mom to be food’ will taste good again and you will soon be able to eat an entire meal without it ending up in the toilet. But, for now, just eat what you can and don’t stress about the ‘nutrient’ side of things. There will be plenty of time to shove copious amounts of boring fruits and veggies into your mouth.
Yes the belly rub can be uncomfortable
Absolutely acceptable to give the belly rubbers an uncomfortable glance. While it’s a great feeling to have family and friends hear and feel the baby , it’s just awkward when aunties you barely know get all touchy-feely with your belly.
Comfort comes before style
Yes the extra kilos don’t seem cute any more to you but no matter what trimester you’re in – comfort comes before style. You can hit the gym and go through diet plans post delivery, but for now- love the attention, pampering and bring on the baggy PJs
Most importantly, reduce the stress and love thy husband
No one said Pregnancy is going to be all about stars,twinkles and smiles. Every unknown pain, spot of blood, funny sensation can bring on anxiety. And every night without movement can lead to a panic attack. It’s so important to believe in yourself and your body’s ability to do this. Much more often than not, everything is fine and you’re doing exactly what you’re meant to be doing.
AND It’s natural that the Husband becomes target NO 1 – crying,angry,irritated, whiny, screamy -‘Attack Husband’. But, try to cut the husband dear some slack – he’s not the enemy! Remember he’s navigating through the same confusing road as you are, and while you’re the one who can no longer see your feet, all he wants is to help you and watch you be comfortable.
So relax, get pampered, enjoy the good with the bad. And keep a box of tissues by the television, just in case one of those ‘Ghar aa jana’ commercials comes on unexpectedly!